:: The Blurst of Times ::

:: 7.03.2003 ::

Here's some props:
His is a good movie. Drip-drip. Well done. Also, he's right, this will be a very important year for the walk to be strong. Let us show our support for peace and utter disdain for war-mongers. Omaha, here we come.

And basically all you've done is jack, buddy. I'm tired of reading those movies, so let's get some bloggin' on.

I am pulling a defunct link, and replacing it with one that is less prosaic.

And because he says that I haven't done this yet, I will be writing about...

My Thoughts on Marriage
I don't really like the idea of ever lying to anyone, and for this reason, I don't beleive in marriage. I think that it is possible to find someone who makes you incredibly happy. I know for a while I beleived that I had found someone that I wanted to share the rest of my life with. To be honest, I have done this a couple times, with a couple different girls, to different degrees. But part of being me is knowing that my life is ever changing. Some days I want a little of column A and somedays I'm feelin more column B. I know that when I found that "special someone" it lasted more than a day, but I also know it felt so real, so good, so true, that I could only assume it would last forever. Had I been of different mindset, at some point in time I would have wanted to get married to this "special someone" just because that is what you are supposed to do.

The idea behind marriage that makes me uncomfortable is having to make a selection once and only once (well, that is the idea anyway). At the pinkish age of 22 years, how the hell am I supposed to make a decision that will directly determine my happiness for the rest of my life? It seems unreasonable to even think of this, and I am constantly amazed at the number of people who seem to have (luckily?) chosen correctly. For a number of years I was happy to wake up next to a certain someone. But what if that feelnig had changed? To what degree do I honor a piece of paper, some contract that I signed when I was barely old enough to vote, let alone predict the future?

The idea I have is of a contract of free will (what a paradox). Every night I have the freedom to assess whom I would most enjoy being with. More than likely, I will choose a single person - this is my goal, to find that someone who matches and compliments me for the rest of my life. But what if I change, or they change, and I don't want to be with them anymore? Then I am still supposed to choose them? I beleive that the contract of marriage means nothing to me, that I have seen enough loveless marriages to know that a piece of paper, no matter how many dollars you spend, is still just a piece of paper. I beleive that the way I show my undying devotion to a single person is by choosing them each and every night, knowing that I (or they) could go out and be with someone else at any time, I choose them again and again because they are the one I truly love. I do not beleive that making a decision once is an eternal promise, but an eternal promise is shown by a lifetime of unyielding regard and respect.

Some people need marriage as a way to acheive a dream, or because it is so engrained into them, or for whatever reason. And i respect this - and if it all came down to just that fact, that single piece of paper, then I could go through the motions, pledge myself eternally, and get married. But I just don't see the need for it, if you truly have faith in the relationship.

"And on that day what else could I say? I'd say 'Here's to you stayin' drunk, adn here's to all your good luck (you're gonna need it)..."
:: Freddy F. at 12:53 AM [+] ::